I don’t know about you but I always thought the big issue in life being a woman was to avoid getting pregnant? All the posters and signs are about how you just look at a man and you get pregnant. Imagine my shock when in fact this wasn’t the issue at all.
I’m a woman right, and that’s what we do isn’t it…..have babies?
Well, 13 years on I was still asking myself the same question. At 20 something it actually never dawned on me that people couldn’t get pregnant. I always assumed it was a choice, and when you decided to have kids it ….just…..happened…..?
OK so maybe I was naive but nothing prepared me for the rollercoaster ride I found myself on being INFERTILE. Yes, I now had a label and everything. That became my label throughout the whole of my 20s, a time when most women are off having fun, not me I was TRYING for a baby.
I guess in a weird way that was the issue whenever we try at anything we tend to not succeed. The Zen saying ‘you either do or you don’t there is no trying’ I guess is very true. The trying to get pregnant is what leads us down this dark path of no one understanding us, and basically not understanding ourselves. Every month comes and we start out with excitement at the thought of being a mum, then timing when’s the right time to do the ‘baby dance’, followed by symptom spotting, followed by disappointment when the period comes.
All consuming and quite frankly a boring way to live your life.
So how do you get off this roller coaster once you’re on it?
For me, it was a massive wakeup call amongst other things that my life was worth more than this and surely I needed to be in the best possible health mentally, physically and spiritually.
I clearly wasn’t in that space in any aspect of my life, so how exactly did I expect this baby to come to me? Would I want to live inside of me for 9 months?
The answer was no.
So what could I do about it?
There was very little information back then on the internet about alternative therapies for infertility or even about IVF. Therefore, I used my intuition and tried to really connect with my body and understand what it was telling me, alongside doing some research. I then found an excellent coach and reflexologist who helped me to look at my infertility in a whole new light.
After 13 years and just 10 sessions with the coach, I was PREGNANT!
I had a healthy pregnancy (although I was sick every day until I gave birth) and had a beautiful baby girl.
That day I vowed that I would not allow another woman to go through this journey alone, so after selling my business I am now a fertility coach helping other women realise their dream of becoming a mum.
If anyone wants help trying to get pregnant please contact me: Sarah Hunter, email@example.com, 07833 250 537. For more information feel free to visit my website www.yorkshirefertilitycoach.co.uk
I hold face to face coaching sessions in Ackworth, Pontefract, West Yorkshire or Skype sessions throughout the UK.